The Story, with Dick Gordon

The Story

If you don't listen to Dick Gordon's "The Story", on NPR, you really should. It'll change your life.

So, I'm submitting my story to "The Story". Being raised by wolves and by the sweetest little old ladies in the world might be a good springboard for a conversation centering around why it is that so many people are having their aged parents care for their children. I'm not judging: there were real positives and real negatives for me, being raised by a woman in her 60s, but no one is talking about this and I think we need to.

Here's my submission:

The New Geriatric Generation of Babies

As I drove to work this morning, I was thinking of my great-grandmother, who raised me on a farm in rural Oklahoma. I have long thought that the impact of growing up in a world of women who are on their way out of this life has been detrimental and beneficial to me. I spent my youth raising my own food, pumping water from a well, wearing dresses straight out of "Little House on the Prairie". I didn't know that there was a modern world beyond the one I lived in. We spent lots of time in church, there were unspoken rules about how much more important to the world men were than women. I went to funerals, but never parties, quilting bees, never playdates. I was alone all the time, except for my older male cousins who had little time for me. I was surrounded by medical issues pertinent to women in their late sixties: mammograms, colonoscopies, high blood pressure medicine. I spent my youth in worry and isolation, but I always dreamed of a different world. I spent my days exploring biology (though I didn't know that's what it was called). I eventually educated myself off the farm and now I'm in Cary, doing research at NC State, living with my gorgeous husband and my two delicious squishy children. I see, more and more, grandparents raising babies and I wonder if anyone thinks about the way those children will see the world. The rapid pace at which they age...or maybe it's just me. I don't know. But it's worth a conversation.